The discussion was about the Law of Attraction, positive thought, and the idea of thinking our way to success.
My friend was being hard on herself because her new entry into the world of solopreneur was not manifesting the way she had pictured it. She felt she had no power, no control and that she wasn’t making things happen the way she wanted to, the way she believed she should be able to do.
But the fact was, she was making very powerful things happen. It just didn’t look the way she thought it would.
Do you have that sort of control problem? If it doesn’t look like you thought it should, it’s wrong, or you failed to manifest it.
I have a different view of the kind of power or control we have over our life – it’s choice. Choice in the moment. Choice that’s aligned with how well we know ourselves. Self-awareness is the key to positive change. Self-awareness is the path to success.
Can you recognize the success that is right for you?
This friend had come from a very big, responsible job in a very large corporation. I pointed out that what she was expecting her business to look like, based on what had been around her for so long, was not what she was going to find as a solopreneur. The “wins” would be on a different scale – a one-person scale. She hadn’t thought about that.
Relax into the power of unfolding
We talked about how she might begin to simply let circumstances unfold. Since I have consciously been practicing allowing my life to unfold, I have been pleased and astonished by what shows up.
There are two steps in allowing life to unfold and they both involve trust. You have to trust the Universe to provide you with the right opportunities and you have to trust yourself to make the right choice.
Making the right choice involves self-awareness
What do you love to do most? What are your strongest skills? What do you need/want to learn next? What do people ask you to do? When you identify your gifts and your passions, they become your guides, your measuring sticks for the choices you make.
The more I honor my natural self, the happier I am. Working and living in my nourishing home, writing from my heart, sharing it with others, making new friends online – it’s perfect. And it has evolved over time as I work to understand myself, making choices aligned with my passion and my calling and simply allowing my life to unfold.
See choice as an exploration
Begin to see choice as an opportunity to discover, to explore, to try something on for size. You’ll find life becomes more fun, more educational, more revealing and more inspiring.
When you make a choice to go down a particular path, you can always choose to turn around and come back, or explore another trail that leads off of it.
A choice is simply that – one choice, in one particular moment in time that seems appealing or right. It will immediately be followed by other choices – to continue, to create a variation of the path you are on, or to try an entirely different path.
Feel your way to success
Use your emotions as a guide rather than your mind. Your thoughts are limiting. Your intuition and imagination have no boundaries.
Stay in the moment and feel your way into a choice. Don’t over-think it. Don’t try to control it. Simply feel how it feels. If it feels aligned, or comforting or fascinating or exciting, go exploring and see where it takes you. See what else unfolds as you journey forward. Then make another informed and aligned choice.
Trust the universe to provide you with the perfect opportunities
Opportunities are always there, you only have to notice them. Pause and take time to examine a new idea, or think about a concept that you just discovered and determine how it feels. Is it right for you? Does it work in this moment in time? What new opportunities does the idea stimulate? What new doors just opened? A range of possibilities open in an instant, in the moment, in the now of simply being.
Can we think our way to success? I think it’s easier and more effective to feel our way to our next step and notice what unfolds. One choice followed by another choice. That’s the path to success.
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