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43 – Intolerance and the Need to Be Right

August 12, 2016 By Cara Lumen

Gandhi says “Be the Change You want to see in the World.” How do we do that?

I watch the eruption of violence in our world and wonder how to heal it. In order to heal it we need to understand it. I think the bottom line is that we need to feel that we count, that we are right, that we are doing things the best way. What happened to cherishing and honoring our uniqueness and our glorious individuality?

Cara Lumen, spiritual philosopher, explorer, map-maker and founder of the Deeper Song Community help us sing a deeper song. In this episode she discusses three things we can we address in ourselves the will positively affect the world around us.
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In this episode we consider three things we can change about ourselves to make a difference in our world:
1. Fear of change – it’s scary to have to do things differently, to move into a space that is unfamiliar. To learn a new way to do things. But change is a constant in our life.
2. Self-worth and the need to be right – If I’m not right, then I”m wrong. If I’m not right then I don’t matter. If I’m not right than I have no value. The need to be right is totally tangled up with our self worth and we need to address that for ourselves on an individual basis..
3. Intolerance of others – It’s appropriate that we choose our own beliefs and values and be true to them in our own lives. But everyone gets to do that. We must learn to honor the uniqueness of everyone else and actually learn from them.

And we’re right back to fear of change. It’s a circle that needs to be broken.

TO REFLECT ON YOUR DEEPER SONG CONSIDER:

Our Opinion Requires No Thought
Can You Learn to Do Everything Through Being?
The Power of the Label You Choose
39- The Power of Active Listening
35—How to Hold the Space for Change.

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Two Steps Past Hard

August 11, 2016 By Cara Lumen

I recently noticed that it was hard to hold some of the positions in my standing Qi Gong practice and that I’d been allowing myself to shorten the session. What, I wondered, would happen if I took it two steps past hard. Not one step – that’s easy. But two steps, steps that took a little effort, took some determination. Steps that could also lead to improvement or even a breakthrough.

Acknowledge the stuck place

You know the adage “use it or lose it”? The older we get the more important that is. Particularly with our body – and our brain. I’m giving my brain plenty of exercise, but my body, not so much. I need to take my body two steps past hard.

Baby step or giant step?

I’m a determined person. So once I decide that I really do want to push through something, I settle into the harness and move forward. It doesn’t really matter what size step you take as long as it moves you past your stuck place.

When I was learning Scrivener writing software, I had to watch the beginning tutorial five or six times; and each time I mastered a new small step.

Each time I edit a podcast I get better at the process. The same is true with videos, I’m getting more proficient with each one I do. Sometimes moving past the stuck place is simply a matter of persistent practice.

Choose your steps

My stuck place is that in my creative hurry to get to my computer to start writing, I shortchange my standing Qi Gong practice. And yet this is a valuable part of my morning spiritual practice. I simply need to hold each position for a longer period of time. And yes, my muscles are not particularly happy with that!

So I have to take two or even three steps past that hard place – every day.

Acknowledge your victory

And you know what? The minute I hold those positions longer, I’m going to feel very pleased with myself. I’m going to feel confident that I can do even more. I will feel that I’m on the road to reclaiming some of my body strength. And soon I’ll be back to holding the positions even longer than I thought was possible.

All because of taking two steps past the hard place.

Where are you stuck?

Your stuck place may be a subtle internal stuck place or a noticeable physical plane stuck place. You can work on either – or both. I can identify a few too many subtle stuck places when it comes to learning new technical stuff. But once I take it to the other side of stuck, I find wonderful new opportunities open to me.

What is hard for you?

What did you do in the past that you can’t or won’t do any more? If it has to do with your body getting older, find some alternative strength-building ideas and put them into action. If you are stuck emotionally, go deeper within to find your answers – meditate, journal, mind-map, talk to someone – whatever it takes to identify where you’re stuck and to figure out two steps to take you past that point.

“Hard” is created by being unyielding

Hard is about being resistant and rigid. It’s about being inflexible. It can also come from gradually letting things slide.
But hard also means being strong and unbeatable. Drop your resistance to change. Embrace the goal you know you need to achieve. And start working toward it. Two steps at a time. Two steps past hard.

To Sing a Deeper Song Consider:

Learn to Honor Your Inner Rhythm
The Freedom of Not knowing
Lose Your Attachment to the Outcome
The Power of Exploring the Unknown
42 – The Stuck Place Called Decision
35—How to Hold the Space for Change.

42 – The Stuck Place Called Decision.

August 5, 2016 By Cara Lumen

If you look closely, you’ll find the major times that you get stuck in your life are when you have to make a choice, or a decision, or take a next step. You are faced with choosing one thing over another. How do you know you’ll choose the right thing? What if you’re wrong?

Cara Lumen, spiritual philosopher, explorer, map-maker and founder of the Deeper Song Community helps us sing a deeper song. In this episode she explores three ways to make decision-making easier and more accurately aligned with your calling and gifts..
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IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS:
1. How to honor the space of simply needing to know more
2. How to develop the very important need to trust your own self-awareness
3.How to make the shift so we learn to see choice as an experiment.

TO REFLECT ON YOUR DEEPER SONG CONSIDER:
41 – How to Make Decisions When Your Let Your Life Unfold
37-Self Mastery As a Choice
30 – The No Plan Plan
27 – Why Have You Been Chosen?
29-Are You Wiling to Move Beyond Your Comfort Zone?

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41 – How to Make Decisions When Your Let Your Life Unfold

July 14, 2016 By Cara Lumen

There are two ways to make a decision – easy and hard. How do you do it?

Cara Lumen, seeker, explorer, guide and founder of the Deeper Song Community is here to hep us sing a deeper song. In this episode she discusses How to Make Decisions When Your Let Your Life Unfold
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In this episode we consider:
There are three important facets in making a change when you choose to let your life simply unfold.
1. Self awareness – key to all positive change. Know yourself so well that you can easily make choices aligned with your passion and your calling.
2. See decisions not as final choices but experiments. Embrace the opportunity to learn and grow – knowing that failures are lessons to be cherished
3. Trust yourself to choose wisely in each moment. And trust Tao to give you the opportunities you need to consider next.
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40 – Who Do yo Want to Serve?

July 7, 2016 By Cara Lumen

Do you know exactly who you want to serve?
Do you know what they need and how you can help them?

I thought I had my place of service all figured out. Then I heard a story of service shared from an entirely different viewpoint and I wanted to look more closely at how and why I was in service.

Here are some in-depth questions to ask yourself that will help place you in deeper service.

Cara Lumen, seeker, explorer, spiritual philosopher and founder of the Deeper Song Community helps us sing a deeper song. In this episode she discusses “Who Do you Want to Serve?”
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What we discuss:
There are three things you need to consider when you choose who you want to serve:
1. Choose the level you want – beginners, intermediates, advanced
2. Decide what form you want your service to take.
3. Determine what choice will grow and nourish you.

Here are new insights on how you can deepen your impact and connection with the people you have chosen to serve.

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