Anger and sadness are emotions we make up in our own minds. When we are no longer attached to likes and dislikes, there is room for serenity. How do we learn to do that? Do you want control over the anger and sadness in your life?
Dissatisfaction comes from being judgmental
“It needs to be done this way – which is my way. I’ve never seen it done that way before, I don’t like it. How can you even think that? You are absolutely wrong!” That’s our mind making up judgments. Look at the dissatisfaction it creates.
What if we learned to see everyone as all one energy. If I see you as a reflection of me, we are the same stuff, we are both simply an aspect of our collective whole. If we are all part of a whole, there is nothing to be judgmental about. It’s like looking at a finger on your hand and being angry at it for being exactly what it is – a part of you. We are all one. We are all expressions of Tao. Being judgmental has no place in the concept of oneness. When you are no longer judgmental, you are filled with satisfaction.
Sadness comes from dissatisfaction
When we want something we don’t have, we are dissatisfied and we become sad. If we think something should be a certain way, we become sad because we don’t get things our way. When we think we deserve something and don’t get it, we become sad and discouraged. In actuality, everything that shows up is exactly as it should be. Look at it as the gift it is. It may be a lesson, it may be an insight, it may be an opportunity. Whatever shows up is perfect. Welcome it and you will be content.
Anger is a waste of time
When we get angry with someone, they don’t even know we are angry. We’re the one having a hard time. Anger comes from being judgmental, opinionated and wanting things to be a certain way. And that is very easy to change. Stop yourself from being judgmental. Stop wanting people to be different. Remember, we are all part of the web of life and every single strand is vital to the whole. Let others be how they are. Your job is to manage you, to be the best “you” you can be.
Investigate your anger and sadness and it dissolves
Change can be as simple as noticing you are angry or sad and deciding not to keep those emotions. Release the anger. Release the sadness. Those come from your mind. Remember that everything is one, the same energy manifesting in different forms. You have the power to release your anger and sadness at every moment. Instantaneously.
Work with what you have before you
In every situation there is a gift, whether it is easy or difficult, disappointing or rewarding. There is a lesson of understanding, patience, acceptance and clarity. You actually want these lessons – they make you a happier person in the long run. Rather than fight what shows up, examine it for its unexpected gift. Then celebrate your new insight.
Let life unfold
You can’t do anything about what shows up. But you can do a great deal about how you respond to it. The more you learn to let life and circumstances unfold, the happier you will be. Simply shape things as they come. Accept them or step aside. Use them or let them go. Notice them or ignore them. There is always a choice. What shows up is simply what shows up. It is part of the natural flow, the movement of the cycles. Embrace the spontaneous, the free, the natural. Let life flow in, around and through you.
When things seem to be in discord return to the center
Life is always changing. You are always changing. Let life move to you, through you and around you as you learn to embrace it’s constant flow of gifts.
When you seem engulfed by unwanted emotion, stop, breathe, and return to the natural voice within. Know that you are all there is. . All there is is you. When you are no longer attached to likes and dislikes, there is no anger and sadness.
To Sing a Deeper Song Consider:
06– Unfolding And The Art Of Wu Wei (podcast, 20 minutes)
08- How Willing Are You to Change – And Why Not? (podcast, 20 minutes)
10– What Will Change Because Of What You Are About To Do? (podcast, 20 minutes)