What do you do in the midst of loneliness, in the midst of fear, in the midst of feeling misunderstood, and rejected? Return to your center. Return to the heart you have so carefully awakened. Go within. Return to your center.
How exactly do I do that?
I’ve hit a rather large bump in my personal journey and I don’t exactly know how to address it. I thought if I sorted it out for myself, it might help you on a similar journey.
Stand tall in your uniqueness
Mine revolves around my uniqueness, which I totally love and celebrate. However, that very uniqueness sets me apart, makes me not “fit in” (which I don’t want to do anyway) but the temptation is there to make myself feel wrong. Has that ever happened to you?
Stay true to your values
There are some things you simply can’t compromise. I honestly can’t tell if I’m being stubborn and selfish or being true to myself. Probably both. Do I want to change who I am and what I believe in order to blend in, to fit in? Absolutely not. That means the feelings of isolation and being different will remain. Until I do something about them.
The deeper you go, the more alone you are
Because each path is unique, the more deeply you move along your personal chosen path, the fewer people you will find going in that particular direction. You find yourself alone. You may find yourself lonely. I sure did.
Be your own best friend
Since I’m the one who likes philosophical discussions, I have to read more, study more, write and think more. With a little luck and effort, I have found some like-minded friends online. However, the bottom line is me – how I spend my days, what thoughts I think, how I interact with others. I have to cheer myself on. I have to figure out how to be my own best friend.
What do you need from your best friend?
Encouragement. I want my best friend to remind me that my work is making a difference, that I am changing lives and inspiriting others.
Acknowledgement. It helps to hear from others that I am contributing to their lives. I simply have to watch for those signs because they are there. However, I can also start my own Acknowledgement List and compliment myself at the end of every day.
Guidance. Signs are everywhere. Opportunities to change show up every day. I simply have to be more aware of them. I can do that.
Love. That would be up to me. I have to love myself. I have to celebrate my own uniqueness. I have to accept myself for the joyous person I am. Loving myself is a cornerstone of feeling whole.
Understanding. With self-awareness comes understanding. Understand what you need, why you need it, how you can get it, what you can change. Get clear on what you have no intention of changing and work with it.
Reside in your center
In my center is peace, understanding, encouragement, acknowledgement, guidance and love. All are there within me. I tap into them though contemplation, meditation, mindfulness, spiritual reading and stillness. Mostly stillness. Go within, find your center and heal yourself.
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