by Cara Lumen
They say that you will be as wealthy as the five people you hang out with the most. That can also be meant to say you’ll be as heavy as the friends you hang out with, or at happy, or as sad. We are influenced by the people we hang out with.
For instance, I have just moved cross country to be closer to my children and two things have happened. My daughter is extremely frugal and I’m finding new ways to economize but there is also not the same consciousness about eating well as I had in California so I am having to watch my weight and not pick up any self-defeating habits like baking bread or cookies to take to a family event. Food is nourishing but so is good health.
As for money, my son Chris always hung out with people who came from families with money and he has always expected to earn a lot and live well. And he has. While my daughter is more excited about shopping the very early morning sales and saving money. It all comes from who we are as well as the company we keep.
Let’s talk about clients a minute. I have a relatively new client that has raised the bar as far as my ideal clients. She is very clear about who she serves and what she does and she has been very pro active in doing the homework and her part in making things happen. And we are flying. Now, of course, I want a lot more just like her. Wouldn’t you?
We do get to choose. Who are you choosing to be with? Are they supportive, and nourishing, and kind? Or do they requires care and support and you find them draining? Go for the good guys, the ones that are partners in what you do, that inspire and motivate you to do your best work. That’s who you want to be hanging out with.
© 2009 Cara Lumen