I need a new Tribe. I don’t fit in with the one I’m in. Actually, I have no desire to fit in. I can plainly see what does not work. I have a choice to make. I need a new Tribe. What, I wonder, do I want to find in my new tribe? I made a list:
What I want in my new tribe:
- Intellectual curiosity
- Love of Learning
- Spiritual awareness
- They have knowledge I want
- I have knowledge they want
- We can change each other’s lives
In our exchange, I want:
And that’s just off the top of my head.
Where and how will I find them?
I’m 82 and living in a senior community. However, I do not identify with anyone here. Thanks to the prompting of an online friend I’m actively harvesting and sharing all the great stuff I have learned over the years. I’m having a ball. However, the more immersed I become in this new endeavor, the less I have in common with the people who live here. I love my new direction. I love all the new things I get to learn. However, the more engrossed I become in my specific interests, the further afield I have to go to have a meaningful, relevant conversation about topics that currently interest me. Thank goodness for the internet. It allows me to go look for my new tribe all over the world.
Give yourself permission to move on
It was a huge relief when I let go of any thought of fitting in and honored my own needs and desires. I was free to honor who I am and what I want to be/do next. If no one in my physical space understood, appreciated or supported what I wanted and needed to do next, then it became clear I had to look elsewhere. I stopped beating up on myself for being different in this environment and went looking for new like-minded friends.
Have a purpose
You need to understand your passion in order to know what you are looking for. I love to explore new concepts, learn to apply the ones that appeal to me, and then write to share what I figured out. My topics are personal development in the form of self-awareness, self-mastery and spiritual awareness. Those are broad topics to guide me. I can take tangents for veganism and a sustainable planet, but I’m more interested in how I can grow and change as a person. I want self-awareness and personal growth to be a major focus of my new tribe. What will the focus of your tribe be?
Look for your tribe online
Locate and subscribe to people who are talking your talk. See who they recommend. Take their courses. Get on their forums. The same energy that drew you has drawn other like-minded people. You will find each other because you are responding to the same signals. Cultivate a relationship with those seekers who share your interests.
Form your own tribe
I belong to several tribes that nurture me. They are in courses I have signed up to take that have active forums. However, it turns out that organically, the Deeper Song Community that I founded is becoming my tribe. I have set up an environment where we can gather. I am not the teacher, although I teach. I am a coordinator, a guide that helps to identify the direction we want to take next. I keep putting out the signals thought posts and podcasts and those who are meant to find me, will.
Stay true to yourself.
“Change is very lonely. But you will never be lonely if you enjoy being with the person you are alone with.” says James Altucher Honor who you are. Be who you are meant to be. Develop your gifts. Have courage as you move along your unique and perfect path. Find the most powerful place for your service. You are the only person that can walk your particular path. Stand tall and embrace the journey.
To attract your own tribe, BE the qualities you want in the tribe. Cultivate yourself. Teach yourself. Look at the qualities you want from you tribe and make certain you are offering them to others – encouragement, feedback, insight, friendship and inspiration. A tribe is an exchange of energy. Send out a strong signal and watch what wonderful people show up.
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The Find Your Tribe Series
1 – When People Don’t Understand Your Passion
3 – How to Identify Your New Tribe
4 – How to Change Yourself For Your New Tribe
5 – How to Participate in Your New Tribe
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How To Set Values Boundaries That Express Your Self Love
How Are You Harvesting Your Crop?
Do You Know How You Create Impact
How To Clear Out the Nay-sayers.
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