Let the Matter Unfold in Its Own Time

by Cara Lumen

There is a phrase I have written down at the top of my journal where I write to sort myself out – “Let the matter unfold in its own time.” How does that feel to you when you read that? “Let the matter unfold in its own time.” Did you take a deep breath? Did your shoulders relax?

I have a huge desire to control, to know what is coming and to make a good decision based on my thought process and my exploration of my feelings about the matter. It’s good to sort yourself out. See what you are feeling. See what your intuition says. But it’s also good to let go and allow it to imply unfold. And it certainly is less stressful.

The signs are always there

When we open our eyes and ears we will always find the signs of the universe pointing us in the right direction. Sometimes the timing is odd – as in not our version of how it should be – but inevitably the right solution is reached. I am facing a major rethinking of what my life means and how I want it to look next based on some realistic appraisals of what I have created to date. I have been fighting the inevitable necessary change; I keep trying to go back to the scenario that was comfortable but wasn’t even working, And that’s not going to be what I get to do.

The Universe is always speaking to you, guiding you and guarding you. You just have to listen and trust. Even the barriers are signs – you are going too fast, or you shouldn’t go that direction at all. Or the opportunity that shows up when you weren’t expecting it means it’s time to take action. Those are all signs and guidance from the Universe.

The outcome is up to you

My challenge involves moving to a new place –and I’ve been fighting it all the way. It is a retirement community and I don’t feel old and I don’t want to be categorized in the stereotype of being old. I have seen people in wheelchairs and I have seen an attractive woman going out to check her tomato plants. But I am 77 and that’s getting up there. And economically the move will make me not have to work so hard. I can go exploring in new directions if I like. But I’m having a hard time with wondering what atmosphere I will find in my new place.

But it’s all going to be up to me. How I change my attitude, how I approach the people I meet, how willingly and graciously I accept my smaller accommodations. Where I live is not my source, the Universe is. My family is not my source. My money is not my source. The Universe is my source and I hold the universe within me, just as you do.

Let the Universe pick things out for you

When we get very, very specific about how we want things to turn out we do ourselves a great disservice. We take away the Universe’s ability to think bigger than we can, to know our overall path, and to provide for us things we never even dreamed would happen. Visualize and set intentions for the general tone and the qualities of where you want to be, but leave the details up to the Universe. It’s enormously fun and surprising that way.

Trust that you are being cared for by Spirit. Trust that you will be guided to the perfect place whether you see it as such or not. All we can do is be in the moment of every day and make it the best moment we can. We cannot control the future we just need to “let the matter unfold in its own time.”

© 2010 Cara Lumen