How to Overcome a Limiting Belief

by Cara Lumen

I’m a metaphysician and I believe my thoughts create my reality. For me that has meant staying away from doctors. When someone you hold in a position of authority tells you something is wrong with your body, it is difficult to use your mind to change that reality. For me it’s definitely a head-in-the-sand approach. However, if you find positive thinking health care providers it’s different. I hadn’t been to a doctor in 15 or more years but I found I needed a total knee replacement so I had to go. The first doctor I went to said, “You’re 77 what did you expect.” The second doctor said, “That’s pretty good for 77.” Guess which one I chose.

Allow yourself to be cared for

That second doctor is a gem. He told me all the tests I should have just to check things out. I had never had a mammogram before because it sounded so uncomfortable. It’s easy as pie so because I had a limiting belief about it I had never even checked it out. I had to have a breast biopsy and that doctor was great. He said it was nothing to be concerned about but we had nothing to compare it to since I had not had a mammogram before. It was strange but just fine to do and it came out healthy just as he said.

My orthopedic doctor is fabulous. I did EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) before my surgery because I was afraid of the unknown pain and after I did the technique I couldn’t get a single emotional charge out of the idea of pain. And I never had any. I was the poster girl for knee replacement I recovered so rapidly.

Here are three fabulous men with equally fabulous nurse assistants, who are kind, caring, and positive. I feel really cared for under their guidance. Sometimes your limiting belief can change when you find the right people to care for you.

What limiting beliefs are holding you back?

Looking for and seeing the positive is a cornerstone of how I live my life. I am still going to seek out positive people to be with and work with but my belief that I couldn’t go to a health professional to monitor my aging process in case it was negative was detrimental to my well-being.

I’m also going to keep an eye out for other limiting beliefs – mine as well as those of others. For instance, I want to protect myself from being with people who have given up on life in their old age. I want to be with people that are curious, and eager to learn new things. So I’ll find them and hang out with them. What limiting beliefs are affecting your health? Do you believe your aging process leads to sitting in a chair somewhere? Or do you see it as an opportunity to leave your legacy?

How to find helpful people to hang out with

You will absorb the attitudes and belief systems of those around you so choose wisely.

I have spent the last 35 years exploring holistic systems and metaphysical principles. I meditate with crystals and own Buddha and Quan Yin statues. I am a Certified Bach Flower Counselor and a Reiki Master Teacher. I have studied T’ai Chi and Falun Gong, EFT and Transcendental Meditation. I have had Deeksha blessings. All of that was great when I lived in New York City and in the area above San Francisco. Those interests and beliefs are prevalent there. But I have moved to the Midwest to be near my children and it’s like moving OUT of OZ. The people here are incredibly kind. And they are conservative. So I have to go find my like minded people on the internet. My friends are a long distance phone call away. I have to keep reading and learning and creating on my own. I have to protect myself from some of the conservative belief systems I am now surrounded with that I find limiting for me personally and immerse myself with belief systems that match my values and people that are exploring where I want to go next.. And maybe I’ll find some in-person like-minded people to hang out with here.

Stay true to yourself and you will attract the people you are meant to serve

A woman recently found me through my blog . What I had written inspired and motivated her. She wrote me about it.  We have had an interesting exchange on FaceBook and we have each blogged about the experience. For me it’s a sign that as I continue to put out the values and concepts that resonate with me I will touch the hearts of others and they will find me and connect with me. I just have to keep my faith and my values and share from my heart.

I have choices I can make about who to spend time with. I can screen the clients who come to me for coaching to be certain they are willing to do the work and trust me to guide them well. I can keep looking for the kind, positive health care professionals that I may need along my journey. And I can seek out new friends who share my enthusiasm for life and hang out with them

Become aware of your limiting beliefs. Go seek out people who inspire and motivate you to greater things. Open yourself to greater possibilities. Embrace change. Life is good and you have work to do.

©2010 Cara Lumen