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How Being Judgmental Can Keep You from Success

December 3, 2009 By Cara Lumen

by Cara Lumen

She quit the class. It did not look the way she thought it would look. It was not done the way she had expected it to be done. So she quit. She had a preconceived notion of what she wanted and did not carefully read what was being offered. She had set up expectations not founded on fact and naturally they were not met. She became upset and judgmental and quit.
Have your preconceived ideas ever stopped you from getting the most out of a situation? When the experience turned out to be something other than you expected did you shut down, or did you know that there was an unknown reason you had made the choices leading you there and that you should look around at what was being offered?

There is a vast difference between judgment and opinion. If you have an opinion it’s yours to do with as you will. An opinion serves only as a guide for your own choices.  You can hang on to it or you can change it. You can share it or you can keep it to yourself. It’s simply the sum of who you are and how you are perceiving things at the moment. It’s your opinion.
A judgment sets you and the object of your judgment apart. It makes one of you wrong. There can never be a collaboration or partnership with a judgment because there is no flexibility. But worst of all when you are in judgment you usually do not go exploring to see what it’s like from the other person’s perspective.   Judgment shuts you in. It shuts you down. You never learn or know what gifts the other person or circumstance affords you. Judgment is critical, an opinion is an evaluation. That’s an important distinction.

Your opinion is based on your evaluation of where you are, who you are and what you need. It doesn’t make anyone or anything wrong. It simply makes a choice about its usefulness to you at the moment. When you are in evaluation mode you are open to exploration and discovery. You are open to change.

How flexible are you when you are faced with a new person or a new opportunity or a new experience?
Do you immediately categorize and pigeonhole the person or experience? Do you look at what’s not working rather than what is working? Do you look at the negative before you look for the positive? That’s judgment and criticism.
Or do you look upon it as an adventure? Something new to learn? Something to explore and consider? That’s when you evaluate and sample what is before you before you develop an opinion, before you make your choice.  You open yourself to each new experience and welcome it into your life.

Start looking at how you perceive new people and new experiences. When something new shows up simply pause and let all your senses work. Feel how you feel, look more deeply into what is before you, and step mindfully into the experience. Then your evaluation will be based on what is true for you at that moment and you will be enriched by the experience.

 © 2009 Cara Lumen

 

Filed Under: Self Mastery, Spiritual Expansion Tagged With: change, choice, personal growth, success

How are You Nurturing Your Inner Self?

November 30, 2009 By Cara Lumen

Passionately On Purpose Radio with Cara Lumen, Your Idea Optimizer, who keeps you passionately on purpose while you make a difference in your world. As a Business Coach, Content Developer and Educator she talks about how to uncover your passion, define your purpose, identify your path, make money from what you already know and attract the people you are meant to serve. But most of all, she’ll help you believe you can!!!  Join her Mondays on www.blogtalkradio.com/passionatelyonpurpose

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It’s so easy to get caught up in doing. How are you doing on just being. Let’s talk about how you can rest in your inner knowing.

 

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Filed Under: Podcasts, Spiritual Expansion Tagged With: change, choice, inner self, metaphysical, passionately on purpose, personal growth

Six Thoughtful Ways to Make Room for Change

November 30, 2009 By Cara Lumen

Passionately On Purpose Radio with Cara Lumen, Your Idea Optimizer, who keeps you passionately on purpose while you make a difference in your world. As a Business Coach, Content Developer and Educator she talks about how to uncover your passion, define your purpose, identify your path, make money from what you already know and attract the people you are meant to serve. But most of all, she’ll help you believe you can!!!  Join her Mondays on www.blogtalkradio.com/passionatelyonpurpose

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As we begin to plan for the New Year we need to move ourselves over so some great new stuff can come in. Let’s talk about how we can make room for positive change to occur.

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Filed Under: Content Development, Podcasts, Self Mastery Tagged With: change, decisions, Planning, Self Mastery

Are You Ready to Take your Business World Wide?

November 7, 2009 By Cara Lumen

Passionately On Purpose Radio with Cara Lumen, Your Idea Optimizer, who keeps you passionately on purpose while you make a difference in your world. As a Business Coach, Content Developer and Educator she talks about how to uncover your passion, define your purpose, identify your path, make money from what you already know and attract the people you are meant to serve. But most of all, she’ll help you believe you can!!!  Join her Mondays on www.blogtalkradio.com/passionatelyonpurpose

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You love your small groups, you love 1:1’s but think what would happen to your business if you were marketing to the world? not everyone is up for expanding their business on the internet, buw then  you are, amazing doors open.  Here are insights and ideas to expand your thinking.

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Filed Under: Content Development, Podcasts Tagged With: business growth, change, choice, content development

How to Attract Great People Into Your Life

November 2, 2009 By Cara Lumen

by Cara Lumen

I’m a great fan of Mike Dooley who writes Notes from the Universe at www.tut.com His “notes” always give me pause to consider the overall scheme of things. Recently he wrote “it’s not who’s appeared, but who you’ve summoned.” Of course the theme of metaphysics is self-responsibility, that our thoughts create our reality. And I began to think about the great people in my life and how they got there. If I “summoned” them, what did I do and how do I do more of it.

People are attracted to vibration. You have a core vibration and then you have variations on that when you are happy or sad or angry. I can’t be around people who are angry; the energy literally hurts my body. So guess what, I’m not going to look for, or hang around people who are angry. You see a vibration that nourishes you and you get closer. 
I have recently moved cross country and am once again hanging out with some of my children and their families. The major vibration I am experiencing is great kindness – a caring for each other – a family community where everyone pitches in. No that’s an attractive vibration.
What do you need to do to attract great people into your life? Be one!!!! Be a great person that people want to be with. Give generously of what you know. Step more deeply into your place of service. Monitor your thoughts and actions so your energy and vibration is positive and nourishing to others. 
It is said that if there is a room full of clocks they will ultimately all align themselves and start ticking together.  That’s how we draw people to us.  We tick our steady beat that is true to our core values adn people with similar values will find us and we’ll start ticking together. Tick Tock!!!

© 2009 Cara Lumen

 

Filed Under: Content Development, Self Mastery Tagged With: business growth, change, choice, clients, content development

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