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Have You Giggled Lately?

December 7, 2009 By Cara Lumen

We can get so serious about our business that we can forget to have fun. We can become so worried about our “next” that we forget to enjoy the “now.” When was the last time you laughed so hard you couldn’t stop? When was the last time you sat around playing with a young child laughing in pure joy as he expressed who he was and participated with cleverness and spontaneity?
If you’re missing laughter in your life – get some. A long time ago it was proven that laughter helped cancer patients get better. Part of their treatment was to laugh every day. I’ve laughed out loud more in the four months I’ve been near my family than the last 19 years I lived by myself. Wonderful belly laughs complete with tears running down my face, to a light heart at the sound of my family playing a game about passing a dime around to guess who was actually holding it. 

I don’t know that it depends on others to find something to laugh about but they help. I have laughed out loud at a book I was reading. I have laughed at a friend’s story over the phone. I’ve laughed at myself, but not out loud. 

Lighten up. Even a smile will make a difference. See how light you can get your heart. See how grateful you can be for the people you live with, or where you live, or who you work with, or a kind deed that comes your way. We see what we look for. Look for twinkling eyes, the beginning of a grin, the smugness of your cat as he lies innocently beside the plant he just knocked over. Find the humor, find the joy, find the laughter. Your day will be better for it.

 © 2009 Cara Lumen

Filed Under: Self Mastery Tagged With: goals, personal growth, positve change

How Being Judgmental Can Keep You from Success

December 3, 2009 By Cara Lumen

by Cara Lumen

She quit the class. It did not look the way she thought it would look. It was not done the way she had expected it to be done. So she quit. She had a preconceived notion of what she wanted and did not carefully read what was being offered. She had set up expectations not founded on fact and naturally they were not met. She became upset and judgmental and quit.
Have your preconceived ideas ever stopped you from getting the most out of a situation? When the experience turned out to be something other than you expected did you shut down, or did you know that there was an unknown reason you had made the choices leading you there and that you should look around at what was being offered?

There is a vast difference between judgment and opinion. If you have an opinion it’s yours to do with as you will. An opinion serves only as a guide for your own choices.  You can hang on to it or you can change it. You can share it or you can keep it to yourself. It’s simply the sum of who you are and how you are perceiving things at the moment. It’s your opinion.
A judgment sets you and the object of your judgment apart. It makes one of you wrong. There can never be a collaboration or partnership with a judgment because there is no flexibility. But worst of all when you are in judgment you usually do not go exploring to see what it’s like from the other person’s perspective.   Judgment shuts you in. It shuts you down. You never learn or know what gifts the other person or circumstance affords you. Judgment is critical, an opinion is an evaluation. That’s an important distinction.

Your opinion is based on your evaluation of where you are, who you are and what you need. It doesn’t make anyone or anything wrong. It simply makes a choice about its usefulness to you at the moment. When you are in evaluation mode you are open to exploration and discovery. You are open to change.

How flexible are you when you are faced with a new person or a new opportunity or a new experience?
Do you immediately categorize and pigeonhole the person or experience? Do you look at what’s not working rather than what is working? Do you look at the negative before you look for the positive? That’s judgment and criticism.
Or do you look upon it as an adventure? Something new to learn? Something to explore and consider? That’s when you evaluate and sample what is before you before you develop an opinion, before you make your choice.  You open yourself to each new experience and welcome it into your life.

Start looking at how you perceive new people and new experiences. When something new shows up simply pause and let all your senses work. Feel how you feel, look more deeply into what is before you, and step mindfully into the experience. Then your evaluation will be based on what is true for you at that moment and you will be enriched by the experience.

 © 2009 Cara Lumen

 

Filed Under: Self Mastery, Spiritual Expansion Tagged With: change, choice, personal growth, success

How are You Nurturing Your Inner Self?

November 30, 2009 By Cara Lumen

Passionately On Purpose Radio with Cara Lumen, Your Idea Optimizer, who keeps you passionately on purpose while you make a difference in your world. As a Business Coach, Content Developer and Educator she talks about how to uncover your passion, define your purpose, identify your path, make money from what you already know and attract the people you are meant to serve. But most of all, she’ll help you believe you can!!!  Join her Mondays on www.blogtalkradio.com/passionatelyonpurpose

This Show:

It’s so easy to get caught up in doing. How are you doing on just being. Let’s talk about how you can rest in your inner knowing.

 

http://www.caralumen.com/radio/lumen_793914.mp3

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Filed Under: Podcasts, Spiritual Expansion Tagged With: change, choice, inner self, metaphysical, passionately on purpose, personal growth

Do You Believe You Can? And Why Not?

November 30, 2009 By Cara Lumen

Passionately On Purpose Radio with Cara Lumen, Your Idea Optimizer, who keeps you passionately on purpose while you make a difference in your world. As a Business Coach, Content Developer and Educator she talks about how to uncover your passion, define your purpose, identify your path, make money from what you already know and attract the people you are meant to serve. But most of all, she’ll help you believe you can!!!  Join her Mondays on www.blogtalkradio.com/passionatelyonpurpose

This Show

Let’s examine what’s holding you back from fulfilling your big dream and getting Passionately on Purpose.

http://www.caralumen.com/radio/lumen_734988.mp3

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Filed Under: Podcasts, Self Mastery, Spiritual Expansion Tagged With: personal growth, self confidence, Self Mastery, strengths

Are you Hanging Out With the Right Crowd?

October 28, 2009 By Cara Lumen

by Cara Lumen

They say that you will be as wealthy as the five people you hang out with the most. That can also be meant to say you’ll be as heavy as the friends you hang out with, or at happy, or as sad. We are influenced by the people we hang out with.

For instance, I have just moved cross country to be closer to my children and two things have happened. My daughter is extremely frugal and I’m finding new ways to economize but there is also not the same consciousness about eating well as I had in California so I am having to watch my weight and not pick up any self-defeating habits like baking bread or cookies to take to a family event. Food is nourishing but so is good health.

As for money, my son Chris always hung out with people who came from families with money and he has always expected to earn a lot and live well. And he has. While my daughter is more excited about shopping the very early morning sales and saving money. It all comes from who we are as well as the company we keep.

Let’s talk about clients a minute. I have a relatively new client that has raised the bar as far as my ideal clients. She is very clear about who she serves and what she does and she has been very pro active in doing the homework and her part in making things happen. And we are flying. Now, of course, I want a lot more just like her. Wouldn’t you?

We do get to choose. Who are you choosing to be with? Are they supportive, and nourishing, and kind? Or do they requires care and support and you find them draining? Go for the good guys, the ones that are partners in what you do, that inspire and motivate you to do your best work. That’s who you want to be hanging out with.

© 2009 Cara Lumen

 

Filed Under: Self Mastery Tagged With: business growth, content development, ideal clients, personal growth

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