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What Do You Save Space for in Your Life?

July 27, 2016 By Cara Lumen

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I’ve been on two webinars today, heard lots of tempting ideas, and I have to stop and take stock. What do I actually want to save space for in my life?

What is most important to you?

I have to decide what’s most important to me right now and look closely at how much time and energy it’ll take to do what I want.

Whether you call it being in service or having impact or making a difference, we all want to do work that has value and that contributes to our world. We all want our work to have meaning – to us as we do it and to others as it contributes to their lives.

So what’s important to us? What do we make the most space for in our lives? It may be your job or your business, it may be volunteer work, it may be your family or friends. What brings you the most personal satisfaction?

Start there. Make more space for that.

How can you accomplish your goals in a more simple manner?

I’m a writer. I’m an explorer of esoteric ideas that I figure out how to apply to my life. Then I share what I discover with you. So the questions I face are: how much sharing to do, in what format, what is the most effective use of my time and gifts and what works best for you.

That’s a big one. When you have a lot of ideas, when you know a lot of opportunities to serve, how do you decide your priorities? How do you make time for what you truly want to do?

Look at what’s working now

It may be as simple as looking at what’s working now and doing more of that. What’s giving you the most results, affecting the most lives, and giving you the most rewards?

For me, it might be choosing to make the podcasts shorter, or writing posts in batches, or simply getting better at the technical aspect of making videos. A variety of decisions must be made with every new opportunity you consider. Choose with an eye to both efficiency and effectiveness.

Our space is sacred

If we view your life, our time, our thoughts and our actions as sacred, we’re going to carefully choose what we put into our available space. We’re going to choose only the things that both nourish us and are the biggest gifts to others. What’s it in for us? What’s in it for them? Find a balance.

I begin by considering what’s in it for me because if I’m not happy, if I’m not fulfilled, I won’t do a good job of reaching others. Align your awareness with your passion and make choices that nurture and nourish you.

What do you save space for in your life? Consider your choices. Make every moment count.

To Sing a Deeper Song consider:

Balance and the Flow of Living
Lose Your Attachment to the Outcome
The Prime Real Estate of Time and Space
The Power of the Label You Choose
Hold the Space for Things To Change
41 – How to Make Decisions When Your Let Your Life Unfold
31-How to Cultivate The Power of Simplicity

Filed Under: Alligned Choices, Positive Change, Service Tagged With: change, entrepreneur, Planning, self-awareness, vision

Don’t Go Back

July 25, 2016 By Cara Lumen

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It’s much easier to go back to the familiar than to push forward. We know what to expect. We know how to do it. But it doesn’t grow our own life when we stick with what we already know. It doesn’t teach us how to do anything new, or how a different approach might affect the outcome. There’s no advancement when we go back to what we already know.

Don’t go back.

I keep falling into the trap of thinking about going backward. For me, it centers around coaching. I have coached. I have even coached several topics. Yet when my business organically went away when I did some old lady things like move cross country and have knee-replacement surgery, I never tried to revive it again. Except on occasions, like recently, when I started to create a coaching course.

The fact is that I outlined the course eight months ago, left it for these exact reasons – that I didn’t want to do something I already knew how to do. So why does something I’ve already done, that I know how to do, show up again as a temptation?

Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should

A zillion years ago, as a PTA mother, I figured out that just because I was capable of doing every job didn’t mean I had to do it. It was a very useful lesson I’ve applied ever since. The more capable we are, the more opportunities there are to serve. The catch is to choose only those that will grow you.

What do you need to learn next?

Whenever I teach a topic, I always improve my own skills. A useful question to ask yourself is, “What do I want/need to learn next?” Then go teach some version that.

Yes, I know, we’re taught that in order to build a business we have to meet the needs of others, but that doesn’t mean we should allow ourselves to be limited by that. What if we go exploring someplace we don’t fully understand, figure out how it works and what we need from it and share it with others? I bet someone wants to have our light shed on their journey.

Follow your call

All my life I’ve been a spiritual explorer. It’s taken many forms, from energy healer to spiritual counselor to philosophical spiritual explorer. Each experience adds to the dimension of the concepts I explore, what I discover and how I interpret that.

I decided to keep moving forward. Yes, I started to resurrect that coaching course, for about 48 hours, until I remembered not to go back. Only forward. That’s all you can do anyway, go forward. But sometimes we try to avoid the adventure of ongoing change by resurrecting what we already know how to do.

I’m going deeper. I’m listening to whispers and nudges that suggest I explore a specific direction or make a turn there. I’m curious, I’m inquisitive, I try out ideas in my own life. And then I share what I find.

I know others hear me and are moved, because they tell me.

Yes, I could touch some lives if I went back and did what I already know how to do, but I can grow my own life as well as that of others when I keep going forward.

To Sing a Deeper Song consider:

Lose Your Attachment to the Outcome
The Prime Real Estate of Time and Space
The Power of Exploring the Unknown
Is Everything You Know Still True ?
29-Are You Wiling to Move Beyond Your Comfort Zone?
34- Use Labels to Expand Your Possibilities

Filed Under: Positive Change, Self Awareness Tagged With: personal growth, Planning, positve change, self-awareness

Can We Think Our Way to Success?

July 11, 2016 By Cara Lumen

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The discussion was about the Law of Attraction, positive thought, and the idea of thinking our way to success.

My friend was being hard on herself because her new entry into the world of solopreneur was not manifesting the way she had pictured it. She felt she had no power, no control and that she wasn’t making things happen the way she wanted to, the way she believed she should be able to do.

But the fact was, she was making very powerful things happen. It just didn’t look the way she thought it would.

Do you have that sort of control problem? If it doesn’t look like you thought it should, it’s wrong, or you failed to manifest it.

I have a different view of the kind of power or control we have over our life – it’s choice. Choice in the moment. Choice that’s aligned with how well we know ourselves. Self-awareness is the key to positive change. Self-awareness is the path to success.

Can you recognize the success that is right for you?

This friend had come from a very big, responsible job in a very large corporation. I pointed out that what she was expecting her business to look like, based on what had been around her for so long, was not what she was going to find as a solopreneur. The “wins” would be on a different scale – a one-person scale. She hadn’t thought about that.

Relax into the power of unfolding

We talked about how she might begin to simply let circumstances unfold. Since I have consciously been practicing allowing my life to unfold, I have been pleased and astonished by what shows up.

There are two steps in allowing life to unfold and they both involve trust. You have to trust the Universe to provide you with the right opportunities and you have to trust yourself to make the right choice.

Making the right choice involves self-awareness

What do you love to do most? What are your strongest skills? What do you need/want to learn next? What do people ask you to do? When you identify your gifts and your passions, they become your guides, your measuring sticks for the choices you make.

The more I honor my natural self, the happier I am. Working and living in my nourishing home, writing from my heart, sharing it with others, making new friends online – it’s perfect. And it has evolved over time as I work to understand myself, making choices aligned with my passion and my calling and simply allowing my life to unfold.

See choice as an exploration

Begin to see choice as an opportunity to discover, to explore, to try something on for size. You’ll find life becomes more fun, more educational, more revealing and more inspiring.

When you make a choice to go down a particular path, you can always choose to turn around and come back, or explore another trail that leads off of it.

A choice is simply that – one choice, in one particular moment in time that seems appealing or right. It will immediately be followed by other choices – to continue, to create a variation of the path you are on, or to try an entirely different path.

Feel your way to success

Use your emotions as a guide rather than your mind. Your thoughts are limiting. Your intuition and imagination have no boundaries.

Stay in the moment and feel your way into a choice. Don’t over-think it. Don’t try to control it. Simply feel how it feels. If it feels aligned, or comforting or fascinating or exciting, go exploring and see where it takes you. See what else unfolds as you journey forward. Then make another informed and aligned choice.

Trust the universe to provide you with the perfect opportunities

Opportunities are always there, you only have to notice them. Pause and take time to examine a new idea, or think about a concept that you just discovered and determine how it feels. Is it right for you? Does it work in this moment in time? What new opportunities does the idea stimulate? What new doors just opened? A range of possibilities open in an instant, in the moment, in the now of simply being.

Can we think our way to success? I think it’s easier and more effective to feel our way to our next step and notice what unfolds. One choice followed by another choice. That’s the path to success.

To Sing a Deeper Song consider:

Our Opinion Requires No Thought
Can You Control Your Own Destiny?
What Do You Do for People That They Can’t Get Elsewhere?
The Power of the Label You Choose
37-Self Mastery As a Choice

Filed Under: Alligned Choices, Self Awareness, Self Mastery Tagged With: personal growth, Planning, positve change, success

Learn to Honor Your Inner Rhythm

May 16, 2016 By Cara Lumen

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I have the leisure time to honor my own rhythm. I can write when I want, walk when I want, do nothing when I want. It’s very freeing. And it’s very revealing.

There is an inner rhythm you need to hear

I started to beat myself up when I didn’t do things in the time line I had decided upon. Once I stopped doing that, I found that when the time was right, it all came together with unexpected ease.

I should/could be doing something else right now. Writing this post is not on my list and yet here I am, listening to my inner rhythm and writing my third post in an hour – all about things I want to figure out, things I need to know. Ideas I’m curious about.

And not being on the list, it sort of added to my burden of the number of posts I wanted to edit and get out the door for proofing. These three new posts are so good that they are going to the top of the list.

Because I waited.

I listened.

I acted at the perfect time.

Getting stuck is about your inner rhythm

This is the second day in a row that I’ve put off the completion of a particular step. If I would just review my two ebooks one last time, I could have the pdf’s on my site. And yet, here I sit, writing about my inner rhythm. Apparently my inner rhythm does not want to do pdf’s at this point in time, it wants to think and write and explore. That’s much more exciting.

So am I stuck? As far as pdf’s are concerned, it sort of looks like it. But as far as my work of exploring esoteric ideas is concerned, I’m on a major roll here!

For me, capturing and exploring an idea is the most important thing I do. As long as I keep doing that, whatever gets put off is simply because of this priority I make of exploring and discovering.

However, there comes a point….

When you honor your inner rhythm the floodgates open

I have learned that I like to work through immersion – several days on one type of project. I feel less pressured, more focused and more productive. So I take steps to provide several days to focus on a project.

I work in batches. Batches of posts, batches of writing podcast scripts, batches of recording the podcasts. Two scripts written one day, two recorded the next, two edited the next and I’ve filled up my podcast schedule for two weeks.

Honoring your inner rhythm holds some surprises

We call it being “in the mood.” My process of getting in the mood is that first I think of something that needs to be done or that I would like to do. I just notice. I don’t act. I’m going to use the example of housekeeping since that’s not much of a priority for me.

I noticed that the meaningful objects on my meditation altar were dusty. I don’t think the objects themselves minded. It didn’t affect the depth of my meditation. But it finally came to my attention that indeed, a little dusting would be a good thing.

But I took no action. The seed was planted. That was enough.

Until one evening, during a commercial break on The Voice, I got up, moistened a cloth and wiped down all the dusty pieces. It may have taken eight minutes. It felt so easy that I went on and cleaned other areas as well. No big deal; I just took advantage of my mood and my willingness.

Value your willingness

Willingness is a sign of an inner alignment. Jump on it! I often wake up with words pouring out of my mind and I rush through my morning chores as rapidly as possible so I can sit at my computer and write.

Notice when your willingness slows down. As I pushed my way though the technical part of the things I needed to learn next, my willingness got less and less until it brought me to a screeching halt.

So I stopped. I let it go. I honored my unwillingness. I listened to my reluctance And I simply did something else that felt easier and more immediately rewarding.

In exchange for that time off, that release of tension, that change of pace, a few days later I was able to return to my learning process with enough willingness to move forward. I honored my rhythm and was rewarded by positive action in due time.

Decisions should come from your inner rhythm

Honor your inner rhythm when it comes to making a choice. When it was first mentioned that the current librarian of our community center was ready to retire, I thought the timing was really off. Two years ago I would have loved the job, but the person who held it wanted it and wanted to do it her way. She didn’t even want me as an assistant.

But things had changed and she was ready to let go. But was I ready to take over?

I had to look at my willingness. I had to think about the years of commitment a job like that seems to mean. I didn’t dwell on it. I just left it alone and let the idea unfold. Until the day came when I was willing and said “yes.”

There was no talking myself into it. There was no big debate on what it meant to do the job. There was a simple waiting for my inner self to quietly come to a decision.

Get to know yourself

Learn to let go of your rational mind and listen to your inner urges, your inner rhythm. Learn to trust your intuition and respond when it simply feels like the right thing to do.

Honor your inner rhythm. Hear it, heed it and you will always be headed in the right direction.

To Sing a Deeper Song consider:

How to Develop Your Distinctive Voice
The Power of Exploring the Unknown
The Power of Your Personal Path
35—How to Hold the Space for Change.
32 – How to See Your Work As Art
Your Art Must Originate Within Yourself
The Reward is in the Journey

Filed Under: Positive Change, Self Awareness, Self Mastery Tagged With: personal growth, Planning, positve change, self-awareness

Why Unfolding Works

April 18, 2016 By Cara Lumen

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For several years I’ve been cultivating an unfolding life, learning not to plan but to let things show up and simply shape them as they appear. I’ve put a lot of thought into things like a “no-plan plan” and I continue to see proof that allowing your life to simply unfold works.

Act only when the mood strikes

Recent evidence of the power of allowing life to unfold came in the form of some podcasts. Although I really like to do podcasts, for some reason I was putting off doing my weekly one. I actually thought I had recorded it but, when the deadline came, it turned out that I hadn’t.

And I couldn’t get in the mood to do it. The script was ready, it’s only a 15-minute podcast, but I simply wasn’t in the mood to record. So I didn’t.

However, the next day I was in the mood, the time was right, and I recorded two podcasts that were really, really good. My energy was high, I had added some good stories. They were the best podcasts I’d done up to then. All because the time was right, things were aligned and I had decided to wait.

Think about it until it’s time

I find that part of the unfolding process can be to mull over a thought for a while before acting. This can seemingly put things off a bit long, but when the time is right it all flows together.

Odd things kept collecting in my not-very-big kitchen. I didn’t have a place for some things and I had too much stuff. This semi-bugged me for a lot longer than I would have liked – until one evening, in about 15 minutes, I made huge strides in reorganizing everything. The decisions were easy, the plan was perfect. It simply unfolded in exactly the right manner.

What if there is a deadline and you live an unfolding life?

Sometimes you just let things go. I simply did not put out a podcast the week I couldn’t get aligned to do it. I’d made the decision to produce one podcast a week but, if I wished, I could change it for one week.

Sometimes you have to choose. You give up one thing in order to make room for another. That’s how life works anyway, but it’s definitely part of an unfolding life

Be patient and it will come

About the time I really needed a good philosophical conversation, one showed up. I didn’t know how much I needed it until it was over and I felt filled up again. Sometimes when something doesn’t appear right way, it’s because it’s waiting for something better to appear.

The Universe will surprise you

A member of the Deeper Song Community offered to proofread my work for me. That was a most awesome surprise. I needed it, as I’m not a good proofer. I’m an overview person. She saw a place to serve and offered.

Another member of the Deeper Song Community offered me strong technical encouragement and showers me with teaching videos and new places to connect.
Neither of those were consciously on a specific want list, but the Universe saw my need and provided it.

Trust the flow

Each day I open myself up to the flow of circumstances. I begin my day with meditation and Qi Gong and move immediately into something creative. I never know what that will be until I sit down and an idea pops up. I simply follow the nudge and write or create whatever emerges.

I listen to my body. It tells me when to take a break or go for a walk, or turn my attention to something else.

I trust the flow of opportunity, that I will select the right ideas to expand, that what I choose has meaning for others and that the suggestions and insights that come to me throughout the day are part of the tools I use to shape the circumstance of my life. In every moment. With every choice.

Letting your life unfold works. Begin anywhere and simply shape thing as they come.

To Sing a Deeper Song consider:

Unfolding an the Wu Wei of Not-Forcing
Unfolding an the Wu Wei of Not-Obstructing
Unfolding and the Wu Wei of Not-Interfering
Unfolding and the Big Bouder
10– What Will Change Because Of What You Are About To Do?
14- How Strong is the Foundation You Build On
How Not to Make Plans

Filed Under: Self Awareness, Self Mastery, Unfolding Tagged With: Planning, self-awareness, Spiritual Expansion

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