When you learn to trust certain aspects of life, the relief is enormous. There’s no worry, no anticipation. I’ll tell you about three areas in particular where you can learn to trust more deeply.
Trust is one of the “power words” I chose for this year. I chose it because I often find it hard to believe the kind, complimentary things people say about me.
Do you have that problem? It’s easy to have such a strong disbelief in your own abilities that nothing others say or do, no reflection that shows up, can make its way into your heart. Until you practice letting it in.
Trust in your own ability
We all want to count, we all want to make a difference, and we all want to feel valuable. The trick is to watch for the small ways in which we have impact and collect them until we have a large enough pile to believe in.
I have made a list. I write down all the nice things people say about me: the compliments, the acknowledgements, even the requests for service that make me feel helpful. Periodically, I have to do a “truth check” to see if I can really accept that, for some people, I really am all those great things. Then I look for any bits of negative feedback I start to give myself and replace them with all this positive reflection I have received.
Trust you can handle whatever shows up
Trust is huge for me, because I have an eye disorder called dry macular degeneration, and I have all sorts of worry around how that will impact my ability to do the things I love – like write and podcast – and yes, the freedom to drive my car.
But deep down, I know I can handle whatever shows up. I may not want to, I may hope it doesn’t happen, but I’ll learn braille if I have to. Nowadays, there are audio books and ways to dictate what you want to write. It doesn’t mean it will necessarily be easy, but I have to trust that I can handle whatever shows up. And soo far, I have.
Trust the perfect opportunities to appear
As I’m big on letting my life unfold, I’m getting better at trusting what shows up and I’m learning to simply shape those things as they appear. The great part about unfolding is the adventures you get to go on – things you’d never have thought of for yourself.
The perfect people will show up.
I love philosophical conversations and these aren’t as prevalent as I’d like them to be. But looking back I realize that just when I really, really, want a meaningful conversation, one shows up.
Sometimes you get help you didn’t expect.
Being an “overview” person rather than a “detail” person, I don’t edit or proofread my own work well. This year, a member of the Deeper Song Community offered to proof my work for me as a gift! What a relief! It’s not a skill I have and I keep having to use larger fonts in order to see my work.
When I shared that with another Deeper Song Community member who has been encouraging me around technical things, he said he was an English major and would also help! These two persons saw a need and stepped in. I gratefully accepted.
My biggest lesson is to trust the future. What really matters is now, this moment – what I choose to do, how I do it, what I decide not to do. The rest will simply unfold – organically, naturally, in the perfect time.
Trust life to unfold – perfectly.
To Sing a Deeper Song consider:
We Are Part of a Larger Spiritual Order
You Are All-That-Is
I Am You
Is it Selfish To Take Care Of Yourself First?
Unfolding and the Big Bouder
Where Do You Find the Support You Need?
What to Do When You Feel Disheartened
06– Unfolding And The Art Of Wu Wei
17 – Exploring The Village of Nothingness
18- How Your Light Illuminates Paths of Darkness
21 – How to Share a Piece of Your Soul
22 – Create Your Own Spiritual Journey
23 – What Are the Truths You Live By?