I had subscribed to her e-magazine for several months. I found her blog and
subscribed to her RSS feed. Every other day or so I got a notice of
something she had written. Some I stopped to read, some I copied to save,
and some I skipped over knowing I wasn’t ready or wasn’t interested in the
One day I said to myself, “This has value to me. I want to become an
affiliate of her work and tell others about her.” And I did.
What brought to me that decision? What shift occurred to make me decide her
work had value to me? How had I arrived at that point? What, I wondered,
Trust Is Built Over Time
My process in reaching this decision, had taken time. I was drawn to her
energy by all the magical ways we are drawn or led to each other. I
accepted her invitation to opt in to her newsletter. It apparently came at
times that worked for me, (as in not too often) and most of all, I liked
what I read. I learned something, it triggered new ideas, it made a
difference in my awareness and spawned new insights.
Trust Involves Similar Values
Trust often involves identifying with the person’s values and respecting or
being stimulated by what they say and do. Sometimes trust involves feeling
safe and comfortable with someone. We trust someone’s success, when we see
them accomplish what we’d like to do. We trust someone’s integrity when we
seem the choices they make in adverse situations.
How do I build trust in myself?
If I want to build trust with you, what do I do? I begin by expressing my
true self—not some version of what I think you might want to hear. I place
myself deeply in service. Then I give and give and give some more. I fill
my contributions to our relationship with value. I fully participate in our
exchange with joy and love and respect.
Trust Is Vital To Success
Trust is something we must build in our business and our lives. Our clients
and customers must trust us to deliver what we promise. They must trust us
to keep our word and act with integrity. Trust is something we must have in
a nourishing relationship. We can’t push trust, we can only nurture it and
let it find its own footing.
Exchange Is The Reward
The reward of trust in relationships is exchange. Whether it is a service
or a product or friendship, we must continually place ourselves in the
service of others. Over time, they will come to trust us, our product, our
services, and our friendship.
Keep In Touch—Give Your Best
Trust comes from continued contact. Whether it is phone calls, letters,
e-mails, or e-magazines, communication is the key to building trust. Who do
you need to contact today? Where would you like to deepen your trust? In
your work environment, in your business, in your life, bring to it the best
you have within you and trust will follow.
Trust Builds Confidence
When you have built a trusting relationship, people will have confidence in
you, they will believe in you and your ability. They will have faith that
you will provide value at every turn. They will ask for your service, your
product, or your advice.
Trust Is The Basic Factor Needed For Cooperation
When we trust, when we open our eyes to another’s humanness, it makes room
for a natural flow of openness and affection. It clarifies our
understanding of each other. Trust allows us to be honest with each other,
to be affectionate, to take risks and love.
Increase the value of your service. Give more that is expected in your
home, in your work, in your life. Work to build long lasting relationships
that are mutually nurturing, that provide for and sustain you. As Mother
Teresa said, “Go out into the world today and love the people you meet. Let
your presence light new light in the hearts of people.”
c2006 Cara Lumen